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Who is responsible Teachers and parents have a special responsibility for
looking after young people and that includes helping them if they are being bullied at
school. But adults cannot do this without help from young people. When someone is bullied
at school, other young people who are not directly involved usually know what is going on.
Even though they are not involved they could help people who are being bullied. They could
encourage them to talk to an adult or could offer to talk to an adult on their behalf.
They might be able to let bullies know that they do not like what they are doing and that
they are determined to see it stop.
All members of a school community, young and
old, have a responsibility to help people who are being bullied and to speak out against
bullying behaviour.
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Why should young people like you help? There are many good reasons why young people should help their schools to
tackle bullying:
- They might want to help a friend, or someone else they know,
who is being bullied.
- Some have been bullied themselves in the past and want to stop
it happening to other people.
- They may realise that anyone can be bullied - if bullying is
not challenged it may be their turn to be victims next.
- Taking part in anti-bullying activities can be enjoyable and
worthwhile.
- People who watch bullying but do nothing (they are called
bystanders) help the bullies by providing them with an audience. Who wants to be accused
of helping bullies?
Being cruel isn't cool (a slogan devised in Keith Grammar
School).
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What if it isn't taken seriously? If your school is one of those where bullying is still
not taken seriously there are things that young people can do to help raise awareness of
the problem. Anyone can do this. You just need to be determined to make things change.
Some school students have helped by carrying
out questionnaire surveys which can help to show where bullying is happening and how many
people are involved. Others have found out about different anti-bullying strategies by
reading books and sending away for information. It is best if you can do this as part of
the normal activities of the school. Subjects like English, Modern Studies, Religious
Studies and PSE (Personal and Social Education) may provide opportunities for work like
this. Once your report is ready you could show it to the headteacher, the student council
or the school board. This should help everybody to understand that bullying needs to be
taken seriously, and that something can be done about it.
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How can you help your school? Many schools are now taking bullying seriously. Here is a list of some of the
ways in which teachers and pupils in Scottish schools are dealing with bullying:
- Bully boxes have been set up in some schools. Young people can
put notes in these if they are too worried to speak openly about bullying. If your school
has boxes like these use them sensibly. Always make sure that anything you write about has
really happened.
- Be a buddy to a younger pupil. Older pupils can sometimes
volunteer to help new pupils coming into their school by getting to know them and by
helping them with any problems
- Special campaigns, such as a "no-bullying day" can
help.
- Some schools have student or pupil councils. You can ask the
council to discuss bullying, even if you are not a member.
- Counselling is a special way of talking to someone. People who
are being bullied, or who are bullying others, can be helped by counselling, but only if
the counsellor (usually an adult) has had training.
- Some schools have set up peer counselling schemes where young
people volunteer to learn how to help other young people.
- Mediation - some schools have introduced schemes where two
people who disagree about something agree that a third person, who may be either an adult
of another young person, helps to find a solution to a problem. This is helpful in many
situations, but not in all cases of bullying. A bully may refuse to take part because he
or she has no interest in ending the bullying. A victim may feel that a negotiated
solution is not fair when it is the other person who is entirely in the wrong.
- Taking part in plays and other drama activities can help
people to understand what it feels like to be bullied and to think about what they can do
to stop it.
- Peer Support is an idea, developed in Australia, in which
older students volunteer to discuss things like bullying, friendship or drugs with groups
of younger pupils.
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Don't leave it to others If young people leave it all to adults, the problem
will never go away. You can help to make your school a better place for everyone, and
learn some useful skills at the same time, by joining in with activities like those listed
above.
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Read this We have available some literature that will help you to understand
more about bullying and the ways in which schools cope with it.
- Let's Stop Bullying - Advice for Young People
[Available here...]
- Focus on Bullying - a document sent to School Boards that
describes what schools can do to tackle bullying
- Spotlight 43 - Finding out about Bullying [Available here...]
- A list of references [go here]
- A sheet about Anti-Bullying on the World
Wide Web [go here
and click 'Want to surf?'.]
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